Many people will tell you different things about parenting. They will tell you what’s important, what’s not important, what’s right, and whats wrong. What they may not tell you is the importance of balance and self-care. You cannot pour from an empty cup. How can you give others a refill when there is nothing left? You are not required to be perfect. Be happy. Do things that make you smile. What many people won’t tell you is that emotional first aid is essential to positive and effective parenting. Knowing when to tap out and say I can’t take “momming” today someone help me is vital. What they won’t tell you is that people are going to talk about you no matter what you do so it’s best to do what the heck you want to do, how you want to do it, anyway. And that those same people who will talk about you for whatever will have problems the size of Mount Everest. What they won’t tell you is that you will be overworked and overwhelmed every single day. So, if the children eat peanut butter and jelly sandwiches for lunch today…it’s not going to kill them. If you don’t clean up today, your house isn’t going to burn down. If you don’t comb your hair or iron your clothes today…who cares. What matters is the laughter belted from the bellies of very happy children. What they won’t tell you if you have to make time for YOU without your children. Oh God forbid you be an actual person and not just a mom, right?! Don’t listen to those that don’t tell you to love yourself in the midst of loving your children. Because they are stupid idiots. Love you so that you can love them.
One Insane Mama