Botham Jean…say his name



Botham Jean.

Somebody’s son, brother, cousin, grandson, friend….

Murdered in his own home while eating ice cream on the couch. Accused of being a burglar. In HIS own home. Let that sink in.

His murderer, Amber Guyer, was sentenced to ten years in the very state that some people serve life sentences for drug charges. Non-violent crimes. His brother spoke in court at his murderer’s sentencing. Brandt Jean forgave his brother’s murderer, asked the judge if he could hug her, told her he wishes the best for her, and stated that he didn’t want her to go to jail.

Forgiveness;  to cease to feel resentment against (an offender) or bionically setting a prisoner free with the prisoner being you.

Should Brandt Jean forgive his brother’s killer? Probably so, since forgiveness is for self and not for the offender but I would be completely okay if he never did. The forgiveness didn’t bother me.

He told her he wishes the best for her and stated that he didn’t want her to go to jail. That part. Why wouldn’t you want a murdered to go to jail to pay for their crimes even if the deceased wasn’t related to you? The empathy that she is offered is not only undeserved but ludicrous. If that is the case then there is no point of jails existing. If murders shouldn’t be in there then who the fuck should? His forgiveness is not a problem. Him feeling like any murderer should not go to jail is disgusting. If there were no consequences to the things we do, we would do them over and over again. The only murderers that deserve to go unpunished are those who have killed when the only other option was to be killed. Botham Jean…was enjoying ice cream. In HIS own home. His sanctuary. His place of peace. Somewhere he paid rent and locked his doors. Her, being an officer of the law, is the biggest part of why she deserves to be punished. You, ma’am, studied the law and took an oath to protect and serve. You, ma’am, did nothing close to that. I don’t care if she is white, black, purple, or blue. Brandt Jean, murders deserve consequences.

Judge Tammy Kemp hugged the convicted murderer. She got down from her bench, in her robe, and hugged the convicted murderer. A slap in the face and an insult. Especially if in her many years as a judge she has not hugged anyone else she has sentenced. If their hugs and thought processes are about christian love in such a painful circumstances I expect for it to be displayed in every situation. I, can intentionally, go to steal Brandt Jean’s car and expect to be met with a hug as well as his support for me to not go to jail after I am arrested. I expect Tammy Kemp to hug everyone she sentences because she can have that same christian love for the man who drowns his own children, the woman who leaves her children to die in a burning car, and the child sex traffickers. Because after all, you don’t pick and choose who to give your christian love to.

I am a God fearing woman who is nowhere that I should be in my faith or my walk. But I do understand in a greater capacity than most people who go to church every sunday that you don’t play iny-miny-miney-moe to determine who gets your forgiveness. When you do that, I am left to question how deep rooted your love for God is and you can no longer discuss Christ-like behavior with me. Just like you can pick and choose so will I. Fair right?

Amber Guyer may deserve forgiveness but she does not deserve empathy attached to her choice of career, gender, race, or anything thing else that others will not be privileged to. I expect Tammy to hug everyone she sentences from here on out. Everyone. And for her to fake pray with them too. I am riding with Botham Jean’s mother who stated, “There’s much more that needs to be done by the city of Dallas. The corruption that we saw during this process must stop.Because after now, I leave Dallas,but you live in Dallas, and it must stop for everyone. He was no threat to her. He had no reason to pose a threat because he was in his own apartment.”

May God bless all who loved Botham Jean and all who can one day be in his position as his death is not the first, but one of many by the hands of the law.




One Comment Add yours

  1. I know this is old, but I still wanted to comment. The only rationale I could come up with was/is…I could only imagine how much hate one would harbor towards someone who kills their innocent family member. All the rage it could create, it was probably easier to show empathy than to walk away. It was a total self-sacrificing, releasing moment, probably for him rather her. Sometimes showing empathy is probably the only way to really release. Saying that to say, from my perspective, it was probably for him rather than her…Awesome read and wording Toy!


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